How to Marry a Millionaire


by James Tuttle

Gentle reader,

Our favorite Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger is back in L.A. for her fifth season on Bravo and it looks like she’s had a little work done on her face to commemorate the occasion.  Unfortunately, it looks like she did the work herself after she’d had a few cocktails.  Seriously, Patti, what’s with the wonky lips and the eyebrows creeping upward at different altitudes?  Do they measure out Botox these days or just randomly inject and run?

Nick Ayler: Not a millionaire but he should be. (Photo: R Gerst)

This scary makeover thing usually happens before season two, after the person has watched themselves over the six or eight episodes of the first season and felt like they needed to correct a few things.  Luckily, there’s enough time after they find out they’ve been picked up for a second season to get a little filler, tightening or all-out liposuction before taping begins anew.  In Patti’s case, it’s been four seasons but the word on the street is that she’s newly single so that might be her reason for slimming down and fucking with her face.

"It was a hit and run. The doctor wrestled me to the ground, zapped me with botox and ran away laughing. Thank God he left my hands alone."

I have to admit that I mostly watch Millionaire Matchmaker on the little screen stuck to the front of the treadmill at Gold’s Hollywood but, regardless of the format, the show seems to be getting a little flat.  Patti’s team of weird Goth people Destin and Bat Girl Rachel continue to round up the “millionaires” and wrangle the prostitutes—oh, sorry, I mean the “girls”—but there’s no way that these people are decent judges of attitude or style.  In the first episode of Season 5, they vet a group of aspiring millionaire bait and start criticizing their outfits and, even though those girls looked pretty busted, they could still give Rachel with the bright red bangs and slutty fishnets, who is judging their asses, a run for her damn money.

Destin and Rachel lend a touch of class to a show about slutty gold-diggers.

In this week’s episode, Patti drags some chauvinist ass with Bozo hair to Tori Spelling’s house to demonstrate that you actually can be a wife and a mom while holding down a decent job.  Tori looked great and added some freshness to Millionaire’s stale format but it was a strange coincidence because I had just called her mom to touch base about the newest collections.  I’m not sure if Tori’s mom is shopping just now, though.  She sold her house this summer for eighty-five million but she was originally asking a hundred and fifty and a difference like that can seriously cut into a girl’s Dior budget.

Back on the show, the chauvinist guy took his clothes off for a weird sub-zero ice sauna date and it was a wow moment for Millionaire Matchmaker because, even though clown hair is not uncommon there, the millionaires usually do not have crazy hot bodies.

Sex in a hot sauna might give you a heart attack, but you won't even be able to find your junk in a cold one.

In other news, my fabulous friend Margot turned me on to a New York Magazine article about Isabella Rossellini that sparked a discussion about what women of a certain age should be wearing and that tied perfectly into Patti’s new face and what is right and wrong for someone who is not 23.

So, I started to look around at what other fashion consultants and stylists were suggesting for women over 40 or over 50 and it seemed like they expected you to have one foot in the damn morgue already!  They suggested that you cover up legs and arms, wear jackets to hide expanding midsections, get a new haircut to freshen up thinning locks and they absolutely forbade trying to “dress too young.”  What the hell?

Rashida Jones and her mom, Peggy Lipton.

I was hanging out with actress Peggy Lipton the other day and she looks better now, trying on sky-high heels and swinging a furry green Mongolian lamb clutch, than she did when I first met her fifteen years ago, and I can say the same about a lot of other fabulous women who’ve added crow’s feet to their lists of assets.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to see my grandmother rocking skimpy Hervé Leger tube dresses or a head-to-toe look off the Alexander McQueen catwalk, but I don’t really recommend that for twenty-somethings, either.  Even Daphne Guinness changes it up a bit, for god’s sake.

MaxMara, Escada and St. John fall/winter 2011

We all know that MaxMara and Escada favor the classic looks for the more conservative ladies, and you can try St. John if you’re feeling really Dowager Duchess, but you really can find great pieces all over the place.  So that you may breathe easier, here are my very own, completely off-the-cuff suggestions for ladies of a certain age:

1. Dress confidently:  By now, you know your personality and what you like.  Trust yourself to make the right decisions and don’t worry about what Vogue is saying.  Actually, scratch that.  Vogue is pretty reliable.  Don’t listen to OK Magazine, though.

Over 40 and Confident: Daphne Guinness by Nick Knight for W.

2. Dress beautifully:  Choose quality of fabric and construction over trendiness. And leave logo tees and H&M for the newbies.  You’ve come a long way and you deserve to feel special.

3. Dress fashionably:  Sift through the shows on each season, choose the styles that you like and work it out.  You’ll have to buy a few new things to stay current but you probably have a great collection of pieces that you can utilize, too.  Above all, make them your own.

4.  You are not old:  I know others are warning against dressing too young but, please, you already know what your boundaries are.  Also remember that you shouldn’t dress too old.  “Granny chic” is not chic on grannies, ironically.

5. Let go:  You know that beautifully crafted jacket that you’ve been hanging onto for years but rarely wear?  Get rid of it!  Go through your entire wardrobe and throw out or donate everything that is not essential to your life right now.  Be merciless.  I know it’s hard because I struggle through it, too, but you’ll feel newly reborn when you’ve unloaded all that sartorial baggage and you’ll love the space for new things to come into your life.

6. Work out and eat right:  This is true for any age.  Clothes go on bodies and unless the clothes are in the shape of a mu-mu or a tent, the body will be evident to some degree.  Everything I’ve read about dressing for one’s age seemed to assume that anyone over 30 is in drastic physical decline and this needn’t be the case.  Hit the gym and skip the dessert and you’ll be happier, healthier and look better in whatever you wear.

Much love,


Comments: 17

  • Chip August 24, 20119:20 pm

    James – well done. I think your advice applies to men as well as women. Can you explain the trend that all gay men in WeHo dress alike? Cargo shorts/logo tees – what is up with that? I am going to go through my closet tonight! I met Peggy years ago a friend’s house..she was beautiful to look at and as nice as she was beautiful.

    • Pure Film Creative August 24, 20119:30 pm

      Cloning has always been a part of gay culture. Without it, A&F would have no business. If it’s not tees and cargo shorts, it’ll be the hipster look at some point, or something else that gives a veneer of masculinity and makes the wearer more appear more alluring, until he opens his mouth and an entire Dior collection of tulle ball gowns comes tumbling out. You forgot to mention the Bottom’s Wiggle that goes with the cargo shorts. That’s imported straight from the beaches of Brazil.

      — James K.

    • James Tuttle August 24, 201110:26 pm

      Thanks so much, Chip! I wasn’t thinking about us in writing this article but I think you’re right! I’m not sure where the cargo shorts and logo tees is coming from, practical though it may be. I think cargo shorts and something else might be better but at least they’re not wearing sequined pasties.
      If I could round up my ideal dinner party, you and Peggy would both be there.

  • James Michael McCracken August 24, 20119:26 pm

    Loved it!

  • Pure Film Creative August 24, 20119:32 pm

    One of your best posts, Tuttle. And thank you for introducing me to Nick Ayler. It’s rare that I look at our blog and start whimpering with desire.

    • James Tuttle August 24, 201110:58 pm

      Thanks, Killough. Mr. Ayler is must-have eye candy for PFC, I think. I’m glad you liked the word part, as well!

      • Pure Film Creative August 24, 201111:17 pm

        I believe I’m besotted with Ayler. I’ve been combing the internet for more about him. Surely if he can have any man alive he would want an old bald man with caustic wit and no money. No?

  • Margot Montaigne August 24, 201110:25 pm

    Darling! i absolutely LOVED your post!! (and not because you mentioned my name–but it was ever so kind) first of all thank you for the delicious eye-candy, Nick Ayler (had to take a spray of nitroglycerine for the old ticker, but it was well worth it!)
    The way you dished the dirt on Patti was so spot-on–I was in stitches. The “thank God they left my hands alone” was so genius, that I’m sure not everyone appreciated it. You didn’t hold back at all on this one, and it paid of big-time—well done!!
    The whole section on fashion for mature women was so lovingly written, I almost cried. Such sound and helpful guidelines. The only thing I disagree a bit on, is mercilessly throwing out everything your not wearing. Having spent the last year working off 30, lbs, I’m so glad I held onto many of the classic pieces i had accumulated over the years–especially vintage couture. I’ve bought four black cocktail dresses recently, but i can’t imagine throwing out the Armani black double silk chiffon you found for me 15 years ago. I. say, if you have lots of space as I do, hang on to your favorite things–even if you only wear them every year or two. But thats only about 10% of what i buy–the rest goes to Goodwill.
    Just loved all the pics and very sound advice. The best advice of all is taking care of the body. i say, wrinkled face or not, if you have a lean toned body, at any age you can look like a million bucks with out spending a million.
    Thanks for such inspirational work Darling!! Love you XO

    • James Tuttle August 24, 201111:14 pm

      Margot!! I’m so glad you liked the article! Thank you for inspiring the whole thing, my fabulous dear.
      The “hands” caption was Killough’s but the rest on Patti’s shenanigans was my own.
      I totally agree that you don’t have to throw away everything, but you’ll feel so much better when you get rid of the things you don’t need. You’ll instinctively know what they are.
      Much love,

      • Pure Film Creative August 24, 201111:23 pm

        Oh hush with the captions credit. Officially “the copy boy” writes the captions.

  • oldancestor August 25, 20114:40 pm

    Well done, as usual Mr. Tuttle, though my eyes were burning at the sight of that first pic. Luckily, you made up for it with the Rashida Jones pic. She’s the real deal – Authentically lovely, natural, charming, and funny. Can I come to your ideal dinner party? I’ll be good.

    • Pure Film Creative August 25, 20115:12 pm

      Yeah, I got another email from another straight guy about that pic and how it is borderline too much. To make it up to you, we’ll post a comparable female hunny in your post on Sunday, although no doubt you’ve noticed how Chris Evans shirtless drives viewers to your Bruce Campbell story.

      • oldancestor August 25, 20115:34 pm

        No need to make anything up. I believe in giving the people what they want. If they want shirtless hunks, so be it.

      • James Tuttle August 25, 20118:30 pm

        Thanks so much, Eric! I don’t know Rashida but I could ask Peggy to bring her to the ideal dinner party.
        And what’s with you straight (cough) guys being so threatened by that picture? Jeez.
        Looking forward to your next one!

  • Krispolo August 30, 201111:19 pm

    Purging one’s closet can certainly be cathartic,not to mention timely for the upcoming clothing drive for the polo charity event in November at LAEC! Hope to see you there.

  • James Tuttle August 31, 201112:30 am

    It’s definitely that time of year to make room. Thanks for making the connection with the clothing drive, Kris! I hope you’ll be able to share it with us!

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